There is a certain aspect of the human mind that wants to control things. We have the illusion of control but not actual control. In fact trying to control or change what is happening is really just resistance. Resistance to what already is.
Think about it like this. Everything in the Universe is basically “streaming”. Things, situations appear until something else appears. Resistance to what is happening is not only futile, but a backwards step toward understanding your true self.
From a basic human perspective, we can’t see the balance or perfection in the universe, yet sages and enlightened masters have been teaching this throughout human existance. If self realization is complete freedom, then it allows all. In this 3D world, we can not have dark without light, hot without cold etc. Everything has an opposite and they are not two things. They are two sides of the same coin.
In fact, they’re not really even opposite. It is a sliding scale, we humans created to identify and communicate. There’s nothing wrong with that except even that is arbitrary. (Chocolate is good to someone who likes it, but bad to someone who doesn’t) The point is, complete freedom exists and allows all.
The key to this is Acceptance. Accept what is currently happening.
This is not to suggest you drop your boundries or submit to something or someone who is detrimental. The acceptance in those cases is that this situation exists. Now I can make a choice as to how to respond to it. Response is the control that you DO have.
It’s all just this! What appears in this moment. Response instead of control.
Lastly, we are all part of this infinite freedom, divine beings in human form. As humans, we have emotions. Accept them. We have conflicts. Accept them. We have moments of joy and moments of sadness. Accepting them both equally is a path back to your authentic self. The self that has never actually left you.
Accepting you as you are,
Paul
Living Unbound 
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